Saturday, January 23, 2021

Making Adjustments

 

Yoga for the Attitude

“You may occasionally experience brief moments of absolute stillness and peace, feeling yourself at home in your body and at home in your breath, in the safe harbor of your deepest self.”

Jane Trechsel (Morning Cup of Yoga, p.58, Crane Hill Publishers, 2002)

          Jane Trechsel has been teaching yoga in Birmingham as long as I have been here. She is an extraordinary woman, who constantly finds ways to give back to a community that loves her. Some of her gentle yoga positions—which once would have been easy-peasy—are now quite difficult for me. That lets me know just how much I need to do them. What I like as much as her stretches, are her meditations and affirmations. I’m a believer in affirmations. They help me to state intentions for each day, which may change my bad attitude over time. Here is a sampling from her book:

“Today I will practice generosity.

I will notice my feelings and try to feel my feelings instead of shoving them under.

I will listen to other points of view, without trying to push my own agenda. (I put three stars beside this one.)

Today I will focus on the blessings in my life.”

          Attitude adjustments are a regular necessity for me. Are they for you, too? Sometimes, I can get into a snit that rolls downhill like a snowball in January—merrily collecting every piece of trash in its path. I dredge up grievances from every decade of my life—even ones long forgotten until this moment. I’m sure you are better wrapped than I am, though. For you, snits are a thing of the past. Right?

          The Jungians describe “snit-fits” as being “gripped by a complex.” This happens when some incident in our present life trips a wire connected to something in our past—usually something unpleasant, but not always. One day this week, I got into a snit-fit over some criticism of my writing. A voice inside my head said, “How dare she. What does she know about me and what I mean! Who does she think she is, anyway!” As soon as that last part came out of my mouth (spoken only to my dog, Liza) I recognized my mother’s voice saying to me, “Who do you think you are, young lady!” My outrage was still connected to being criticized when I was a kid.

Complexes are autonomous—they activate automatically and can absolutely ruin your day if you fail to recognize them for who they are and show them the door. I wonder whether you have experienced this—being suddenly gripped by a bad mood that you don’t know the origin of. It’s an interesting human characteristic. If you have the courage to track it back, you may discover some part of yourself you thought you had lost.

Doing meditative exercises like Yoga first thing in the morning is a good way of setting the attitude you want to carry into the day. Affirmations of positivity and kindness, spoken as your intentions, will go a long way toward putting you on the right foot. Throughout the day, when you feel a complex sneaking up on you, remind yourself of your affirmations. Here’s a good one: “I will respond lovingly when others are upset.” That includes you, by the way.

                                        In the Spirit,

                                        Jane

         

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