Begin
Again
“The
birds they sang at the break of day
start
again I heard them say.
Don’t
dwell on what has passed away
or
what is yet to be...
Ring
the bells that still can ring
Forget
your perfect offering
There
is a crack in everything
That’s
how the light gets in...”
Leonard
Cohen (“Anthem”)
This
song by Leonard Cohen has been on my mind for days. Written decades
ago, it still resonates today. How often do we start again? How often
do our lives get derailed, and we are called upon to pick up the
pieces? Only now, they no longer fit together in the same way, so we
must create something new. I think of Diane Rehm's memoir, On My
Own. She married young, stayed married for more than fifty years
and then her husband, who had Alzheimer's disease, took his own life.
I have a friend who has been working for the same company for twenty
years. Two months ago, he was let go. Other friends recently received
the news that their child is on the Autism Spectrum. All of them must
begin again.
Life
is filled with moments when we simply lay down one life, and pick up
another. The circumstances are not always traumatic—falling in
love, getting married or moving in together, having a first baby are joyous events. All
the shuffling roles that life deals us are like playing cards in a
grand poker game. They cause us to feel awkward for a while, to feel
as though we are walking on ground being shaken by an earthquake.
They require that we adapt, so even good happenings are stressful.
Change is the very nature of life.
Most
of us approach change with fear in some form. It's human to feel
afraid when “your perfect offering” is yanked out from under you,
and you don't know where you may land. It is how we deal with change
that makes all the difference. If we allow the fear to take over, to
guide our decisions and veil our days, we will have difficulty moving
forward. If we decide to acknowledge the fear, but embrace the
change, we will move forward with momentum on our side. Accepting
fear, but acting anyway, is the crack through which the light gets
in. We “ring the bells that still can ring” and then start over.
In
the Spirit,
Jane
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