Life
is a Dog
I
never intended to have this life, believe me—
It
just happened. You know how dogs turn up
At
a farm, and they wag but can’t explain.
It’s
good if you can accept life—you’ll notice
Your
face has become deranged trying to adjust
To
it. Your face thought your life would look
Like
your bedroom mirror when you were ten.
That
was a clear river touched by mountain wind.
Even
your parents can’t believe how much you’ve changed.
Sparrows
in winter, if you’ve ever held one, all feathers
Burst
out of your hand with a fiery glee.
You
see them later in hedges. Teachers praise you,
But
you can’t quite get back to the winter sparrow.
Your
life is a dog. He’s been hungry for miles,
Doesn’t
particularly like you, but gives up, and comes in.
Robert
Bly (“The Resemblance Between Your Life and a Dog”)
I
first wrote from this wonderful poem by Robert Bly in 2005. Nothing
much has changed, except for my acceptance that life is a dog. Here's
the deal: Life is its own boss. Life happens on its own terms,
unfolds according to its own agenda. All our illusions of control are
just that—illusions. We can either go with the flow, or spend our
appointed days swimming against the tide. We may make scant progress,
but the tide will always win. In the meantime, we cause ourselves
great pain and distress trying to divert, or inhibit its movement.
What
is more interesting, at least to me, is to watch where it's going,
and to ponder how we got here from where we started. What series of
steps, and missteps were taken to arrive at this place of Now. Since
there is no reversing course, let's build a raft and hang on for the
ride. From the advantage of hindsight, I can tell you that my life
has rarely gone as I had planned. There have been a few brief moments
when I got what I wanted, usually with disastrous consequences.
There's an outside possibility that there is more wisdom to life than
I possess inside this tiny head of mine. Perhaps, learning to trust
is the key.
I'm
not suggesting that we do nothing and see where that gets us. We must
do what we can; we must take responsibility for ourselves and think
deeply about the choices we make. But, there is great freedom in
allowing our stars to steer themselves in the small galaxy of our
lives. Letting go allows our vision to adjust when looking at the
past, at the numerous twists and turns, blind alleys, the endless
mazes. When we look back with acceptance, life looks less like a hot
mess and more like a rich soup, made from a good broth, simple
ingredients, and savory spices. We can look forward, knowing full
well that all that now exists will change. Life will be what life
will be. We can let the dog in when he shows up at the door, mangy
and half-starved. We may never have seen him before, but we know he’s
come home.
In
the Spirit,
Jane
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