Friday, March 20, 2015

Missouri Mule Mentality

Stubborn Hope

Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don't give up.”
Anne Lamott

My mother used to tell me, “You're as stubborn as a Missouri mule!” She didn't mean that as a compliment. It was just one of the ways she, in her sweet southern-lady guile, bent people to her will. My mother was a steel magnolia with a straight-razor mind, dressed up as a demure belle of gentility. Most people fell for it, and those who didn't paid the price.

I found out that Missouri mules were, in fact, chosen as the Official Animal of Missouri by the General Assembly in 1995. They are known for their strength, hardiness, intelligence, even temper, and “healthy” stubbornness. A Missouri mule is a good animal! A strong animal! So next time someone says that to you, just thank them and go on about your business.

Stubbornness has its strengths. It can help you keep your vision alive, while climbing an insurmountable number of steps to a goal. It can make you determined enough to “prove them wrong” that you become single minded in pursuit of your dream. It fuels that ability to "wait and watch and work" until your vision becomes reality. It keeps you going when you want to give up.

Stubbornness also has its limitation. It can close you off to new ways of seeing things, to new ideas that would enhance and augment your vision. It can prevent you from accepting facts that are contrary to your stated goal, and therefore ensure failure.

I remember my great-grandfather putting “blinders” on his old black mule that I'm pretty sure didn't come from Missouri. Little panels of black leather that fit on either side of the harness at the eyes. They kept the mule from looking to the left or right, and forced him to stay focused on the straight and narrow path ahead. We don't want to wear blinders when we have a vision in mind. We want to stay on the path, and still have a wide view of the possibilities. Be like a Missouri mule today—hardy, smart, and even tempered with a healthy dose of stubbornness.

                                                              In the Spirit,

                                                                   Jane

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