Tuesday, August 18, 2020

It's All Worth It


Such a Gift

“And this is it. This is the life we get here on earth. We get to give away what we receive. We get to believe in each other. We get to forgive and be forgiven. We get to love imperfectly. And we never know what effect it will have for years to come. And all of it…all of it is completely worth it.”
Nadia Bolz-Weber (Accidental Saints: Finding God in All the Wrong People)

          Nadia Bolz-Weber knows of what she speaks when she says, “We are simultaneously sinner and saint, 100 percent of both, all the time.” Every time I think I’ve climbed the mountain and seen the valley of truth, I inevitably fall off the cliff and land in the fullness of my sinner-hood. For instance, there is no good response for me, as a white person, to have to the monstrous wrongs that have been perpetrated on black and brown people, not just now, but forever. I could wear sackcloth and ashes for the rest of my born days, and it would not cause their wounds to be one bit better.

          In the documentary on climate change that I watched Sunday night, the man who was interviewing a Cherokee elder spoke of the burden of guilt and shame he feels as a white person whose lineage has done so much harm to others for so many thousands of years. The response from the Cherokee elder was not to soothe the man, and not to condemn him either. He said, “That’s good. Guilt is a good starting place.” I’d never thought of guilt as good, honestly; only as something to reconcile and get past as quickly as possible. But when we look at our colonial past and our present-day behavior toward black and brown people, people of other nationalities, faiths and sexual orientations, guilt is the proper response. If you can, for instance, visit the Equal Justice Initiative’s museum and memorial in Montgomery, AL, and not come away feeling terrible shame about the way black people were and are treated in America, then I think there is no hope for your heart.

          To be sure, we cannot undo what has been done in the past. We can, however, accept it and teach our children the truth about what happened, and still is happening, in this land of the free and home of the brave. We can get down off our high-horse, and take off our white hats that are melting like ice cream on a hot sidewalk. We can do everything in our power to level the playing field in every area of society. We can identify with the saintly part of our nature while still recognizing that the 100 % sinner is still alive and well and sitting side by side with our better angels. And, we can do the hardest thing of all—we can listen. We can listen, and when the verdict of our guilt and complicity becomes overwhelming, then perhaps we will have a tiny inkling of how hard it has been for them for thousands of years.

          We will never right the wrongs that white Colonialists have perpetrated on the rest of the world, but from here on out, I, for one, will do my best to listen and respond with an open heart. This life that we are given here on earth is such a precious thing that it’s worth trying to do what’s right every single day that we’re here. Even when we stumble and fall, even when we are our own worst enemy, even when we can’t bear to look at ourselves in the mirror, all of it is completely worth it. All of it is a blessing.

                                                  In the Spirit,
                                                  Jane


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