Thursday, July 26, 2012

"Can't buy me love..."


Feeling Abundant

We cannot measure abundance by what we accumulate. Abundance is an experience of the heart, a wind that blows through us like a flute. There is nothing to hold onto—who can hold on to music. It floats in the air. Our treasures are in the eye, the ear, in the heart that feels the wonder of things.”
                           Wayne Muller (Legacy of the Heart)

One of my sons is a dealer of antiques and collectibles. From time to time, he receives a phone call or a visit from desperate family members: Mother has died and they have to clean out her house before it can be sold. And Mother's house if full to the brim, running over, stuffed floor to ceiling with who knows what. Usually the children are simply overwhelmed and want someone besides themselves to go in and clear it out. Sometimes careful records have been kept, an inventory listing contents and dates of purchase or acquisition. More often, there is simply chaos.

You would be surprised at how often such houses are located in affluent neighborhoods—neighborhoods where no one is living with scarcity, including the hoarder. There are houses where something that started out a hobby became an obsession; where someone became preoccupied with collecting every single example of some bauble or other. Often, the person doing the hoarding went without basic necessities in order to finance their obsession. When they had acquired one of everything, it became important to then have two, or ten, or hundreds of them.

We always recognize these unfortunate people as 'sick'. We know excess when we see it, but somehow when the excess is not stacked floor to ceiling we miss it. When we are plagued with feelings of scarcity, we ourselves buy more than we need, more than we can use. Then we spend a fortune trying to protect all that we own with security systems and weaponry. Here is a surprising statistic: Americans spend more on weapons in one day than the United Nations hunger programs are allocated to fight world hunger for a year. After the shooting in Colorado, gun sales skyrocketed.

The feeling of scarcity is a condition of the heart. No amount of material accumulation can fill the hole in our lives that compels us to compete, oppose, or battle for survival. When we realize that we truly need very little to feel satisfied, the need to acquire and protect 'stuff' goes away. The things that bring fullness are usually exceptionally simple and free of charge—a hand in our hand as we walk, a phone call from a child, a sparkle in the eyes of a friend, a beautiful sunset. Money can't buy wholeness. For that we need love.

                                       In the spirit,
                                       Jane

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