Friday, January 7, 2022

It's All About Love

 

Our Universe

“Because to each of us, our life is our universe.”

John Perricone

          I am sitting here amid the clutter on my kitchen table. There’s a small Brother sewing machine and the beginnings of a wall hanging on the other end, a plastic bin of fabric paints, four spools of thread, an address book, several opened pieces of mail (all bills), the tablet with all my passwords (since I can never remember any of them), two candles and a Ming dynasty bowl that was a wedding gift forty-seven years ago, a stack of used cloth napkins, and my empty coffee cup. This is my universe.

          My friend Anna and I were talking on the phone last night about the latest variant of Covid that is now the dominant strain. Suddenly, I know six people who test positive—people who have made it their business to observe all the protocols and have not gone out in public without a mask over their faces in two years. We talked about how confining it is to know you cannot safely go out to dinner or, well, anywhere else where other human beings are breathing. Even though we may not want to go out, just knowing that we can’t feels constricting. This is our universe right now.

          There are wonderful things happening, I’m sure, and other things that are sad, or just normal. And yet, collectively, our universe is in the grip of an overarching, intractable, pandemic that throws a wet blanket over anything colorful. I’ve begun watching flash-mob videos on YouTube, just to remember how it felt to be spontaneous and playful—dancing in the streets. My favorite is a bunch of high school teachers in a gymnasium, dancing to Uptown Funk for their school’s homecoming. I cry every time.

          I have noticed lately, as I’m sure you have, that people are grouchier than normal. The cumulative stress is taking its toll on our collective mental health. We’re driving like angry birds and cursing the gods over small irritants we wouldn’t have noticed before.

So how do we change this fractious universe? I don’t have the answer to that question, but I notice that after I talk with friends or relatives on the phone, my mood it better. Human contact that is real and intimate—that is to say, honest—is essential. Laughter is critical. Sending cards or listening to music you love, or creating something tasty or beautiful, reading something that brightens your mind, or lifts your spirit—these are the lifelines that we must use to reach out and touch the people we love. Because, in the end, this universe we live in is all about love.

                                                  In the Spirit,

                                                  Jane

         

         

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