Tuesday, March 16, 2021

Do You Follow the Crowd?

 

Forge Your Own Trail

“The person who follows the crowd will usually go no further than the crowd. The person who walks alone is likely to find himself in places no one has ever seen before.”

Albert Einstein

          I attended a Zoom lecture last night given by a young man who happens to have Schizophrenia. He and some of his friends, who have similar diagnoses, spoke about the mental health system and its treatment of this disorder. They have experienced not being listened to, not being understood, and having little if any personal contact with their physician. They feel that the medical establishment has written them off as a “case” and ceased to see them as a human being. Once a diagnosis is determined, the physician treats the disorder and not the individual who has it. These young people have experienced being different for most of their lives. Any human being, even one with Schizophrenia, is far more complex than their one difference, but somehow, the difference becomes their identity.

          Most people who were in the group didn’t want to be flatlined by traditional psychiatric medications. Even though psychiatry calls them dissociated, they experience some of their “visions” as holy. I don’t know what the solution is here, and do not pretend to, but I, too, have experienced being “different,” which is a broad category that includes everything from being poor, to blind, to intellectually challenged, to being a math prodigy. In a culture that mostly follows the crowd it is awkward to be different. Just as with a flock of chickens, the pecking order is a real thing, and people who are different tend to be at the low end of the pecking order. It’s not right, but it is unfortunately true.

          As a child who is trying to find his/her place in the world, having a difference can be exceptionally hard. Even small differences can feel like major hurdles. But, believe it or not, there is life after high school. People do grow up. And then, being different is an asset. If you can give up trying to follow the crowd, perhaps because you simply can’t, perhaps because you choose not to, there is a good possibility of growing into who you truly are. As Luna Lovegood, in the Harry Potter (J.K. Rowling) series said, “Being different isn’t a bad thing. It means you’re brave enough to be yourself.”

There’s something to be said about striking one’s own trail—taking a new and different route. Maybe even exploring territory where no one has ever been before. As Gandalf said in Lord of the Rings, “Not all who wander are lost.” He was right. Some of us are simply unable or unwilling to follow the crowd—Albert Einstein was, and he turned out okay, don’t you think? It’s helpful to consider your differences to also be your strengths, and to allow the crowd to go wherever crowds go. You have your own path to follow.

                                                  In the Spirit,

                                                  Jane

         

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