Tuesday, April 2, 2019

Be Weird and...


Unafraid

Be the weirdo who dares to enjoy.”
Elizabeth Gilbert (Big Magic: Creative Living Beyond Fear)

A friend is visiting me who lives on a farm in the mid-west. She's got farming in her blood, having grown up in a cattle-raising family on that seemingly endless prairie. She makes her own clothes, and almost all of them feature some sort of fruit or vegetable—writ large, and loud. She showed me her latest hand-made creation; a skirt made from fabric printed with brilliantly colored macaroons, with red pompom trim around the hem. Sometimes her shirts have a life-sized cat picture on them, and sometimes they feature farm animals. As you might imagine, they are absolutely unique—one of a kind. She gets a lot of flack for dressing in such an unusual and blatant style, but she is not deterred. Giant squash is just too beautiful not to wear. She's a weirdo who dares to enjoy.

Most of us are conscious of what's in style and closely follow trends. It's strange to me how uniform we are with clothing and decorations. There was a time in Birmingham when absolutely every house had a pot of red geraniums on the front porch—not orange, not pink, and certainly not petunias. It was like God had sent out a memo threatening sudden death to anyone who didn't put a red geranium on their porch. Right now, gigantic SUV's and Crossovers are the “in” vehicles. “Screw the environment,” they seem to say, “if the Jones' drive a humongous Lexus bus, then so will I!” I always chafe when I park my little hybrid in a parking lot and can't see a single thing when I try to back out because there's a behemoth on either side. I know, I'm being judgmental—but the carpool line at the nearby middle school reminds me of the old-time pachyderm parade when the circus came to town—each elephant holding onto the tail of the one in front of them. Okay, I'll stop. I've had my little rant. Forgive me.

It's rare to find people courageous enough to simply be themselves, to dress in what's comfortable to them and forget what's “trending.” We're afraid of being judged as weird, as though that's a fatal flaw. When weird means individual, unique, authentic, bold, creative, and unafraid, what's wrong with that? The thing is, we have to detach from the collective-mental-machine long enough to find out what we like best, what suits us. We have to stop letting some Hollywood designer dictate what we must wear this Spring. It takes a little bit of work and a little bit of risk-taking to be who you are. But, you're worth it. You were made to be yourself—not someone who follows like a sheep, driven by a snappy designer-dog. Here are the wise words of Elizabeth Gilbert (Big Magic):

The universe buries strange jewels deep within us all, and then stands back to see if we can find them.”

Go out there wearing your version of a macaroon skirt today, and be proud of who you are.

                                                      In the Spirit,
                                                           Jane

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