Sunday, August 12, 2018

Finding a Common Language


Communicate

We need to look for what we have in common. And finding it, not leave or pretend, but dare to be who we are in public, before family and strangers, until our ancestors come in dreams to remind us that we are all just pilgrims who need each other, travelers who carry bits of truth and wisdom we don't understand until brought to life between us. We need to commune in this way, so we can endure what life has to offer and grow.”
Mark Nepo (“Voices of the World,” Mark's Weekly Reflection)

In his weekly reflection, Mark Nepo tells the story of his recent conference in Barcelona, Spain. The translator failed to show, so no one could understand what others were saying, including Mark, who does not speak Spanish or any of the other languages represented there. Somehow, simply because they wanted to be there with one another, and say what they had come to say, regardless of the fact that no one could comprehend the words, they communicated on a different level. Through body language, eye contact, hand gestures, heart-to-heart—they remained in communication and reached beyond speech to their shared humanity.

This weekend in Charlottesville, VA, and in Washington, DC, there will be marches and counter-marches—white supremacists and anti-fascists, and of course, police standing anxiously between them. No one wants a repeat of last year's violence and tragedy. Our country has been a wildfire of competing ideologies ever since, because no one is listening to anyone else—in essence, we speak different languages. And, unlike what happened with Mark's group in Barcelona, we have stopped trying to understand one another. Body language on all sides is full of scorn and hatred. I understand this to a degree; the idea of the KKK and neo-Nazis marching in the streets is absolutely repugnant to me, and I certainly don't agree that white people are superior and should be in charge of the world. It is, unfortunately, white people who have gotten us to this place of terrible discord.

What we're missing is our shared humanity. We are missing the desire to reach across the divide, and listen to a language we don't understand. We have disconnected our hearts from a conversation we view as too horrifying to contemplate. We somehow believe that hurling insults and racist slurs at one another will solve the problem. Take a moment to think about that. What, beyond adrenalin, is to be accomplished by all this hatred?

There is legitimate cause for anger, but anger will not achieve the change we want. Rage breeds its own, and violence results in dead children. Let us, please, put our hands together, and look into the eyes of otherness with something besides hate. We might just catch a glimpse of another human being whose soul is in turmoil just like our own. That is where we are not different, but exactly the same.

                                                      In the Spirit,
                                                           Jane

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