Transformed
“All day
I think about it, then at night I say it.
Where did
I come from, and what am I supposed to be doing?
I have no
idea.
My soul is
from elsewhere, I'm sure of that,
and I
intend to end up there.
I didn't
come here of my own accord, and I can't leave that way.
Whoever
brought me here will have to take me home.”
Rumi
(translated by Coleman Barks)
I attended a memorial
service for a friend of mine this week. Dottie Thompson was one of
those regal old southern ladies, who was about as big as a minute and
packed the punch of a full-grown male bison. She was a founding
member of St. Steven's Episcopal Church, and also of Southern
Progressive Alliance for Exploring Religion, aka SPAFER, a non-profit
that brings progressive theologians to Alabama—in fact Diana Butler
Bass was presenting here at the time of Dottie's death. Dottie was a
woman who lived by her own lights and expected everyone else to do
the same. She quietly went about the business of following Jesus. Her
particular ministry was one of hospitality, though she wouldn't have
thought of it as such—she just took people in. Children from
Slagtown, a tapped out mining community near the church, squatters
who lived in a school bus, wayfarers who happened into her
neighborhood looking for work. She was fearless and hadn't a trace of
grandiosity about all the things she did. In fact, I never heard her
say a word about them.
Dottie had two big old
shaggy dogs—Bilbo and Baggins—whom she adored. She deemed them
incorrigible, which they were—runners who refused to be tamed or
even house-trained. She did not want to put them off on her children,
so she took them with her. On the stand with Dottie's urn of ashes
were two white canisters with paw-prints on them. In the Memory
Garden, all their ashes were spread together, just as she requested.
About six weeks before her death, Dottie flew with her entire family
out to San Francisco to attend her nephew's wedding—she was already
on hospice, dragging oxygen tanks around and in constant pain, which
she refused to acknowledge. In the photos from the wedding, Dottie,
in lavender, was almost as beautiful as the bride.
At the memorial service,
Dottie's grandchildren read her favorite wisdom quotes—the Rumi
poem above being one of them. Another was from that wise and ancient
Jedi master, Yoda: “Death is a natural part of life. Rejoice for
those around you who transform into the force.” I'm pretty sure
the force is a good bit stronger today because one tough old,
sprightly, beautiful soul and her bad-boy dogs have transformed. Go
with God, Dottie!
In the Spirit,
Jane
1 comment:
Jane...I love this tribute you have written to my mother. You have captured her essence completely. I would love to know your connection to her.
Anne Burke
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