The
New You
“Attachments
color our perception of reality, distorting its nature and value. We
may think we see reality clearly, but we usually adjust our version
of events around whatever is most important to us.”
Wayne
Teasdale (The Mystic Heart, p. 82)
We all have our
attachments, don't we? I am attached to my way of life. Sometimes, we
are attached to things simply because we don't know any other way to
be. We think that our way is the only way, or at least, that it is
the only way for us. When life changes, either suddenly, or over
time, we are disoriented and off balance. I spoke with a friend of
mine yesterday who is retiring this summer. She has been an
elementary school teacher all of her adult life, but has several
physical ailments that now make her job difficult. Her mind is
reeling with the prospects of this major change—how will she
structure her day? What will she do with herself?
When we go through the
loss of a spouse, or a parent, or an important job, we feel unusually
vulnerable and insecure. It feels as if we are suddenly not who we
were; that we've become someone else, and we don't yet know who. When
we are used to being robust and active, and something happens to slow
us down—illness, or accident, or simply the aging process—we have
difficulty recognizing ourselves. “This is not me!” we say. There
is a funny book by Southern writer, Kathryn Tucker Windham, titled:
She: The Old Woman Who Took Over My Life, examining
this process of self-alienation. Windham was well into her 90's when
she wrote it.
Learning to lean into
change, rather than away from it is good for our mental and spiritual
health. Our human tendency to resist change because it means that we
must detach from something we hold dear causes us great anguish. We
don't have to give in, or give up, in the face of ill health, or
sorrow, or fear, in fact a fighting spirit is an asset. But we do
have to accept that change happens, and when it does, we too must
change. Change is reality. All living things change. If we are able
to see change as an open door ahead of us, rather than a barred gate
behind us, we will move with the flow of it and find new horizons and
new challenges just as satisfying as the the old. Detach and you may
discover yourself—the new you!
In the Spirit,
Jane
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