Natural
Radiance
“I wish
that all women paid greater attention to their natural radiance
resulting from, above all, inner serenity. All the eye make-up on the
market cannot illuminate eyes that have lost their interest in the
world, and a woman in love with life has the best foundation to be
found.”
Helena
Rubenstein
When I was a counselor, I
noticed something about my female clients: as they began to relax,
and resolve whatever dilemma brought them into therapy, they wore
less and less make-up. I don't think they just got lazy; I think they
got okay with who they were. Heavy make-up is, in many ways, a mask
behind which to hide.
Similarly with men: the
more comfortable they became with talking about their feelings,
rather than their thoughts, the more casual their clothing became.
The ties disappeared,and the button-down with dress pants became
khakis and a polo. What I saw in their eyes was interest in the
process rather than defensiveness. Sometimes clothing is armor that
hides vulnerability.
William Shakespeare is
credited with saying, “The eyes are the windows to the soul,”
and he was right about the amount of information communicated by our
eyes. By looking into someone's eyes, we may learn a lot about them;
good, evil, light, darkness, fatigue, sickness, health, joy,
kindness, confusion, interest. The eyes are mirrors of our inner world. They can stand in
stark contrast to our words. When eyes and words disagree, believe
the eyes.
The very best “look”
we can achieve is an open and honest curiosity and interest in our
world and our role in it. Our love of life shows, not only in our
eyes, but in the light we carry within our whole bodies. Inner
serenity gives us a natural radiance that lights up our countenance
and our world.
In the Spirit,
Jane
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