Wednesday, November 18, 2015

Time Commitments

Simplicity, Not Austerity

But living fully doesn't mean having it all, going everywhere, doing everything, and being all things to all people. Many of us are beginning to see that too much is too much. Doing too much and having too much get in the way of being able to enjoy the things we do want in our lives, and to simply be who we are.”
Elaine St. James (Inner Simplicity)

I was looking for a particular book on my shelves this morning and couldn't find it. I know it's here, but there are too many books and they aren't in any specific order. Even though I didn't find the book I wanted, I did find Inner Simplicity, and opened it to the section titled, “Create simplicity, not austerity.” Time to address the book collection, and keep only the books that truly mean something to me.

I find myself doing this in my everyday life as well. For most of us, there are too many competing demands. My church alone could keep me hopping seven days a week if I let it. Work is physically demanding, and I try to make time for exercise every day. By evening, I'm tired and want to sit down and chill. So, I'm trying not to make commitments on weeknights—and that includes church. I know...it goes against the grain to say “No” to long time friends and places of worship, but sometimes less truly is more.

Too often what happens when we over commit is that we begin to resent the demands. We feel over-burdened, and exhausted. We're more likely to burn out, withdraw emotionally, and then heap guilt on our own heads for being disloyal. I'm speaking for myself, of course, and from experience, but I suspect I'm in pretty good company.

Another negative outcome of this business of saying “Yes” to too many things, and too many people, is that we end up having no time for creativity. By the time we complete all our “have-to's” there's nothing left for our “want-to's.” Activities that actually rejuvenate us fall by the way-side for lack of time and energy. That affects our well-being and overall health.

Being aware of how we divide ourselves between giving out and taking in gets more important as we age. I do, however, know a lot of worn-out young people. They think, “I'm young! I should be able to burn the candle at both ends and not even notice!” But, they're also human, and humans of any age, even children, need down time. They need rest, and time to create from within. Young folks bounce back more quickly than we oldies, but the effects of full-throttle living are cumulative. Sooner or later, they, too, crash and burn.

Simplifying our lives means living smarter. It does not mean living less. When we aren't exhausted, we're able to take more in and truly enjoy the activities and people that mean most to us. Here's our thought for the day: “Today, I will not over commit. I will keep what I love, and bless the rest.”

                                            In the Spirit,

                                                Jane

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