Healthy
Relationship
“Watch
yourself as you go through your days. Where do you get your
nurturing, your support, your empowerment, your energy?”
Melody
Beattie (Journey to the Heart)
I
have a friend who is in a relationship that cuts her off from the
rest of the world. She tries to make the best of it, to focus on the
positives, but little by little, other people have been cut out of
her life—her friends, her siblings, even her own children will no
longer come around. She chooses this one person to be her source for
everything.
One
of the hallmarks of a good relationship is not conformity, but
diversity. How free are the individuals to be themselves, to express
themselves in whatever way is native to them, to share their time and
talents with whomever they choose. The yardstick of a healthy
relationship is not how close we are, but how much space we can allow
one another, and still feel deeply connected. Each individual
flourishes and grows, and brings back to the partnership renewed
energy and vitality.
It
is not possible to be in a restrictive relationship and maintain
health. We humans, in the final analysis, are pack-animals. It really
does take a village to nurture, and support, and empower each of us
to be who we are meant to be in this world. That's why we're here—to
be the ultimate us. We can't do that in a vacuum.
Today,
look around. Who is your village? Who helps you grow? Who champions
you? Who believes in you? Move in their direction.
In
the Spirit,
Jane
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