Monday, November 10, 2014

Wrongdoing and Rightdoing

Field of Soul

Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing and rightdoing,
there is a field. I'll meet your there.

When the soul lies down in that grass,
the world is too full to talk about.
Ideas, language, even the phrase each other
doesn't make any sense.”
Rumi (translated by Coleman Barks)

When the Dalai Lama was here in Birmingham, he talked about “oneness.” He spoke of all the means we employ to see ourselves as separate, and to compare ourselves to others. He said quite emphatically, “We are all the same!” We are not different on any level that truly matters. His words got me wondering whether that's what we are here to learn—that this simple truth, “we are all the same,” is the meaning of life. Not just to think it, or to speak it, but to realize it soul-deep, and live from that place. The things that separate us—race, religion, wealth, gender, tribe, ideology—are superficial. Underneath all that, we are exactly the same.

If we are to embrace our oneness, we must begin with self-acceptance. Some of us have an inner saboteur, who points out all our shortcomings, berates us when we make a mistake, and expounds on how much we lack. And, that bad-boy is just as hard on everyone else. It is the critical voice inside your head, and he is an equal-opportunity kind of guy. He needs to be silenced. We humans make mistakes, we have shortcomings, we sometimes screw up—it goes with the territory. It's enough to say, “Uh-oh, I made a mistake!” and get on with correcting it.

Self-acceptance is hard for some of us because we know we've hurt a lot of people, and not lived up to our own expectations. But, if we let that regret color our every move, we will never overcome. If you live long enough, you will hurt others, and you will be hurt by others. It is one of the things that makes us alike. Forgiveness is the solution all around—forgive yourself, and forgive them and move on. The grass is green in that field beyond wrondoing and rightdoing, and our souls long to lie down.
                                                                  In the Spirit,

                                                                        Jane

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