Monday, November 3, 2014

Making Progress

Spiritual Detoxification

Spiritual progress is like a detoxification. Things have to come up in order to be released. Once we have asked to be healed, then our unhealed places are forced to the surface. A relationship that is used by the Holy Spirit becomes a place where our blocks to love are not suppressed or denied, but rather brought into conscious awareness.”
Marianne Williamson (A Return To Love)

Step 4 of the Twelve-Step programs requires one to make a “searching and fearless moral inventory” of oneself. Step 5: Admitted to God, ourselves and another human being the exact nature of our wrongs. Step 6: Were entirely ready to have God remove all these defects of character. Part of the process of getting clean and sober, is turning one's attention back to where it belongs, on one's own nature and ways of relating in the world. It's a painful process for an alcoholic/addict, as it would be for any of us.

Real relationships between human beings rely on honesty. To be honest, one must know oneself first and best, and that requires plumbing the depths of the motives that activate our own behavior. If we let them, relationships will bring all our ulterior and unconscious motives right up to the surface, and shine a bright light on them. And that's a good thing—albeit difficult, and sometimes even painful. All of us want our significant pairings to be genuine and nurturing. We want the other person to know us very well, and love us anyway. That requires a naked honesty that feels (and is) uncommonly vulnerable and risky. But it is this unwrapped clarity that allows us to bond at all.

Spiritual detoxification is the means by which we strip away pretense, egotism, fear of unworthiness, and any other defects of character that stand between us and the spark of God within us. We are then ready for whatever comes—in our relationships and in our lives. That is the definition of security.

                                                        In the Spirit,

                                                              Jane

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