Monday, November 21, 2022

Being Right Is Sometimes Wrong

 

Heart Card

“Do not let your intellect overpower your heart…”

Philip and Stephanie Carr-Gomm (Druid Animal Oracle Deck, “Seal”)

          I drew a Druid Animal Oracle Card today just to ask how things would go for my presentation on Synchronicity for Jung After Work tonight—the quote above was the advice. Interestingly, Jung and his protégé Marie Louise von Franz had a lot to say about our western dependence on rationality, too. They agreed that when we are too dependent on it, we run the risk of being correct while missing the point. When we leave out the heart intelligence, we are likely to say and do things that cause harm even though that is not our intention. It’s good advice for me. My cousin Sandy likes to tell me that I think too much and overanalyze things. She’s absolutely correct.

          So, what does it mean that we should operate from the heart? Notice that the advice is not “dump your intellect,” it is merely, don’t allow it to overrule your compassion. Most of us really like to be right—we want to have the last word, and we have made it okay to say harsh things to each other to get there. The rules of civility have been tossed out the window, and now we can say whatever we want without caution. But not without consequences.

          There are times when, even if we know the right answer, even if someone else is holding forth without having all the facts, that we should simply remain silent. Another concern should outweigh our desire to correct their mistake, and that is our desire not to hurt or humiliate them. Both options sit side by side, and we can choose which card to play.

This week, during the Thanksgiving festivities, it’s a good idea to choose the heart card. Especially if you can’t express yourself without sounding superior or critical. I am going to remember this advice, even though my sons do a pretty good job of stifling my know-it-all attitude. You can’t go wrong coming from the heart. Paradoxically, you can go wrong by always being right. Just embrace the season of gratitude and you’ll be fine. Also, chew your food and don’t talk with your mouth full. Some civility still applies.

                                        In the Spirit,

                                        Jane

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