Thursday, August 18, 2022

Selfishness is not the answer.

 

Living with Integrity

“Integrity: choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy and choosing to practice your values rather than simply professing them.”

Brene Brown

          I was disappointed that Liz Cheney lost her primary yesterday. I didn’t always agree with her and most of the time, she torpedoed every Democratic initiative, but she had integrity. Having integrity may not sound like much, but for me it’s everything—in today’s politics, where most people seem willing to sell their souls to the highest bidder, it stands out as unique.

          For those of us who are not in politics, integrity means doing what we say we will in a timely fashion. It means walking your talk in every area—not just stating a belief but living it. It means standing up for what you love rather than allowing it or them to be used and abused. It means being true to yourself rather than cow-towing to another person or trying to become what the other person wants you to be. It means standing in your own truth even when it’s unpopular. It’s hard in our world today to truly have integrity. You won’t run with the popular crowd. And, like Liz, you may not win your primary.

          Integrity requires us to consider what is good for the most people. What has value for the poor as well as the rich. What will serve our country or community rather than what benefits only us. In other words, it requires a degree of selflessness rarely seen today.

Here are some words from Joe Elmore, a retired Methodist minister I know: “Much of the hurt results from a hurried and distracted style of living that focuses on getting what we want. It may result from anxious striving for recognition, a competitive spirit bent on winning, involving constant struggle to get ahead of others. The fact is there are multiple ways we seek to feed our selfish desires.”

Integrity and selfishness are incompatible. Taking care of oneself is different from being selfish. Taking care of oneself does not mean that others must sacrifice their safety and security so that we can have what we want. Empathy goes hand-in-hand with integrity. If you see a homeless person on the street, and your first response is how bad that person looks and what his/her presence says about your community, it’s possible that you lack both integrity and compassion. If your first response includes concern for the homeless person’s safety and security and whether they have sufficient food and shelter, you’re making progress. If we only help the people we deem “worthy of our help” then we have missed the boat entirely.

There is much to think about when it comes to making our world a better place. Integrity informs all of them. Without it, nothing will change, and with it, everything will change. And change is what we need most of all.

                                                  In the Spirit,

                                                  Jane

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