Sunday, January 9, 2022

What do we value?

 

Beauty on the Inside

“But photographs, like mirrors, are notorious liars. The truth is: Adelaide was the most beautiful being I have ever seen in this world or any other, if we understand beauty to be a kind of vital, ferocious burning at the soul’s center that ignites everything it touches.”

Alix E. Harrow (The Ten Thousand Doors of January, p.96; Redhook Books, 2019)

          This short paragraph from Alix Harrow’s book, The Ten Thousand Doors of January, is an example of the delicious writing you will find in the whole book. It is also one of the best descriptions of beauty I have ever seen. I wonder when we humans became so concerned with physical beauty that it supersedes this idea of inner beauty. I still find myself looking in the mirror and castigating my image for its imperfections. It reminds me of Temperance Brennen in the television show, “Bones,” describing an attractive person as having “a pleasing symmetry of facial structures,” but the real woman, Emily Deschanel, said, “Real beauty is being aware of yourself and honest about who you are.”

          When you think about physical beauty, what/who jumps to mind first? I must say, Paul Newman came pretty darn close to perfection in my worldview. As it happens, he also had a beautiful heart. I think of Lady Gaga—who has non-traditional beauty that comes from the fire inside her that “ignites everything it touches.” She also is a generous and courageous person. Today’s equivalent may be the lovelies of BTS—androgenous and equally beautiful as masculine or feminine. But their “Army” of mental health professionals is what speaks loudest. They are the honey; their Army is the cure.

          In 2019, Americans spent 16.5-billion dollars on cosmetic plastic surgery. A staggering amount, but not first place. Brazil leads the world in the number of such surgeries, and Australia ranks in the top ten. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look better. Who doesn’t? But does it stop at correcting physical flaws? Are we equally concerned with inner beauty? What about people who do not fit the parameters of “pleasing facial symmetry” or who, due to genetics, are not pleasing to the eye?

          I ponder these things, knowing in my heart of hearts that I, too, weigh people differently who are physically beautiful from people who are not. It may be some vestige of the laws of attraction that plays these internal tapes. But I also know that beauty must be more than skin deep to move the heart. It must come from a “vital, ferocious burning at the soul’s center.” When we see that, my friends, we behold true beauty.

                                                  In the Spirit,

                                                  Jane

         

         

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