Thursday, December 30, 2021

Kindness Is Contagious

 

Acts of Service

“There is no such thing as a simple act of compassion or an inconsequential act of service. Everything we do for another person has infinite consequences.”

Caroline Myss

          This may sound silly, but I really appreciate it when someone gives me their shopping cart at Aldi, so that I don’t have to use my quarter to get one. I know—you get it back when you finish shopping, but it is still an act of service in my opinion. It says, quite simply, I see you; I acknowledge your existence, and I am happy to share with you. That speaks to me because, as an older person in our society, I am accustomed to being invisible to others.

          I am not condemning anyone. I am certain I did the same thing when I was a young person. Our culture does not “believe in” old age, and we do everything in our power to avoid it and still stay alive. It’s built into our cultural psyche that at a certain age, especially past retirement, people no longer contribute to society. We’re a drain on the economy and we drive too slowly. Here are some facts reported in the New England Journal of Medicine just last October (2021): Older people shop, use services, and pay taxes, and we reach the top of our productive potential between 60 and 70. The second most productive age is between 70 and 80, and the 3rd most productive is between 50-60. The average age of Nobel Prize recipients is 62. This is thought to be because, once mates are selected and children reared, there is more time to focus on one’s own work and life. And beyond that, our personalities finally come together to form something other than a mishmash of neuroses. I don’t know about you, but I was a basket case in my 30’s and 40’s.

          Acts of kindness, just like offering someone your shopping cart at Aldi, have a ripple effect. If I have been given a cart, I am more likely to hand it off to the next person, and they to someone else. If someone is kind to me, I am in a better mood and am more likely to be kind to others. Kindness is like a big fish jumping out of the water to catch a bug—the rings of waves it makes when it splashes down keep going and going.

          Simple acts of compassion are little things we can do every day that have the potential to impact the wider world. We don’t have to be Mother Teresa—there has only been one of her—but one small act of kindness can ripple out to enough others to make life better for all of us.

                                                  In the Spirit,

                                                  Jane

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