Tuesday, April 13, 2021

We depend upon each other.

 

Body and Soul

“’I began to feel at peace with my body again after being very angry that it had let me down,’ the woman explained. Walking she had found herself remembering all the people who had walked with her through her surgery and treatment.”

Barbara Brown Taylor (An Altar in the World, p.61; Harper One, 2009)

             This story comes from Barbara Brown Taylor’s book An Altar in the World, Chapter 4, “The Practice of Walking on the Earth: Groundedness.” It is about a woman who came to the Chartres Cathedral to walk the Mother Labyrinth after her final breast cancer treatment. Her husband came too and walked to the middle of the labyrinth to hold the center while she made her way out on the twisting, turning path. It is a beautiful image of ritual, and good example of healing by letting go of anger.

             Most of us understand the feelings of betrayal we have when our body lets us down in some way. Whether breast cancer, or prostate cancer, diabetes, a bad hip or knee, kidney stones, heart attack, COPD. Whatever chronic problem we may have seems like it shouldn’t be—not for us! Why me? We also feel betrayed when age begins to show on our bodies and our faces. We (speaking for myself, here) buy creams and toners, and, as a nation, we pump billions of dollars into the cosmetics industry trying to regain what we feel has been taken from us. Mostly, the winners in this skin contest are the shareholders of the cosmetics companies and whoever sells their products.

             One thing that gets overlooked in this scenario of anger toward one’s body is gratitude for all the years that body has served us—us being the human soul residing within that body. We see ourselves as two separate parts—there is always a “me” looking at “you,” when we look in the mirror. We may be saying, “Whoa dawg, you are lookin’ good!” or “Damn, girl, you have really let yourself go!” but either way the me who lives within is speaking to the one who lives life out in the world. I think this split is why we are so critical of our own bodies.

             I propose this: look in the mirror and say, “Thank You, for your service.” And maybe even, “I love you and want to take care of you.” And then, say, “We face this world together and we are fine exactly as we are.” Your body and your soul depend upon each other. We cannot love one and hate the other or neither will be healthy. I believe that when you affirm your wholeness, you become more aware of how to take care of what you are—a body in service to a soul.

                                                  In the Spirit,

                                                  Jane

            

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