Thursday, December 20, 2018

Deck the Halls


Rituals

The rituals of Christmas are truly rituals, part of the holy festival. They should be done with care. Ritual feeds the soul the way food nourishes the body.”
Thomas Moore (The Soul of Christmas, p.74)

When my sons were children, we often went out to a tree farm and cut our Christmas tree. The whole business of selecting a tree, cutting it down, roping it to the top of the car, hauling it into the house, muscling it into a tree stand and putting on the decorations took a whole day and evening. We had a particular order for decorating—lights first, of course, then colorful strands and then the ornaments. When the boys were little, most of the ornaments were gathered around the bottom third of the tree—as far as they could reach. Last of all, the star went on top. This was a ritual that we all looked forward to—the beginning of the season of giving. We knew good things were on the way.

I remember being invited to dinner by my friend, Sharon, during Hanukkah, the Festival of Lights. She lit candles on the menorah, and said the prayers in Hebrew before we sat down to eat. It was a beautiful ritual. The purpose of rituals is to invite in the divine. They designate the space as holy. The Christmas tree is not part of the nativity, but the “cosmic tree” can be found in most religious traditions. Beginning in Genesis with the sacred tree of knowledge in the Garden of Eden, to the end with the tree of Golgotha on which Jesus was crucified, trees play a prominent role Christianity. In the Jewish tradition, the Tree of Life grows from the heavens down to earth; in India, flowers and ribbons are placed on trees deemed sacred, and Scandinavians have special reverence for “Yggdrasil,” a version of the world tree.

We may not think of the things we do this time of year as rituals—decorating the house, preparing special foods, wrapping gifts—but they are. If we had strong traditions around particular holidays as children, we tend to see them as simply routine—this is just what we do at Christmas, or Hanukkah, or Kwanza. But rituals have deep soul connections. When we do them consciously, they enrich our lives by connecting us through the ages with our ancestors, and with future generations. At this sacred time, when autumn gives way to winter on the Solstice, we find ourselves thinking about the people we love, both past and present, in a different way. We remember and feel the influence of those who are no longer with us; we feel their presence more than at any other time of year. I think it is the rituals that draw them near, that close the circle. This holiday season, invite in your ancestors, include them in your rituals, and experience the difference in depth of meaning this will bring. Establish sacred space.

                                                                   In the Spirit,
                                                                      Jane

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