Friday, December 29, 2017

Bends in the Road

Self-Realization

Your own self-realization is the greatest service you can render the world.”
Ramana Maharshi

Every human lifetime is a journey into the unknown. We have a plan, and we go about executing the plan, but there are so many spontaneous events that we simply can't see coming. We think of them as wrong turns, blind alleys, mistakes, even disasters. Truth is, they may not be wrong at all. Our lives may have a course of which we are consciously unaware, and only in retrospect can we realize its true meaning.

I've had several conversations with friends lately about events in their lives or in the lives of their loved ones that have all the hallmarks of tragedy—a fall that does permanent spinal damage, a broken tree limb that renders a young man paraplegic, a brutal parent, the sudden death of a parent or a child, an incident of abuse by a trusted person, a car accident, a diagnosis, an addiction—all events that change the course of a human life. We cannot predict these things, we cannot plan for them, and when they come, we are completely thrown off balance. They are pivotal in that we are forced to redefine who we are and how we function in the world.

While unexpected events, whether good or ill, shape us, challenge us, and sometimes, break our hearts, they do not have to be a death sentence. We must grieve, certainly, we must have time to lament, and some of us need more time than others, but we do not have to assume that brokenness, whether in body or in spirit, will render us useless. We can learn to be whole in our brokenness; we can even come to see it as a strength.

The journey toward self-realization has many twists and turns; at times it resembles a curvy mountain road with backward turning bends. This is the challenge of any human lifetime; no one is exempt. We make choices, but also, choices are made for us by the hand of fate. It is our task to walk this path and to find within it what makes us whole. What is the gift that we have to offer, hammered out of the fiery forge of creation? In the words of singer Lena Horne: “It's not the load that breaks you down. It's the way you carry it.”

                                                         In the Spirit,
                                                            Jane




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