Saturday, September 30, 2017

What would Gibbs do?

Follow Your Soul

There will be a few times in your life when all your instincts will tell you to do something, something that defies logic, upsets your plans, and may seem crazy to others. When that happens, you do it. Listen to your instincts, ignore the odds, ignore the complications, and just go for it.”
Judith McNaught (Remember When)

I have a friend who left home when her daughters were teenagers, and went to live in India for a year. She knew no one there. She was simply following her gut. Today, she is a happy grandmother with deep ties to India, and Indian friends who come to visit her on a regular basis. This woman, who is an art therapist, has spent significant time in Africa and Haiti as well. She has created labyrinths all over the world, and now owns a cave—yes, a cave—in northern Alabama, which she has managed to restore and open to the public with the help of the Cherokee Nation and many, many volunteers. She is my age, when most people retire, downsize and settle into their recliners in front of the TV. Where on earth she gets the energy and imagination to do all that she does, I cannot say, but she is a moving object in space and nothing much slows her down. I watch the trajectory of her life and simply marvel.

I have other friends who just sold their big old house in the North Carolina mountains, where they lived for more than forty years and raised their children. They retired, bought a motor home, and hit the road on a trip that will cover at least the lower forty-eight. There are daily postings on Facebook—leaving Kansas, heading to Oklahoma—and beyond. This week, they met a couple who had been doing that for twenty years! Now, I have to say, that would not be my chosen lifestyle, but I admire folks who simply do what they're called to do.

Another friend of mine, who is now in her eighties, has terminal cancer and is actually on hospice, complete with oxygen tanks and concomitant pain, flew on Thursday of this week to San Francisco for the wedding of a niece. She took her two young grandsons with her. I asked, “How can you possibly do that?” and her response, “What else am I going to do?” It hasn't yet occurred to her to lie down in bed and die. She says she doesn't have time for that. She plans to live her life until the very last moment.

People too often allow fear of the unknown keep them from listening to the callings of their souls. “It's just not the done thing,” they say. “I wouldn't be safe; who knows what might happen.” Safety is an illusion. And, doing what calls to your soul will extend your life. Who wants to get to the end with regrets about having failed to live the life they were called to live? There is nothing so sad as a dying person saying, “I wish I had...” followed by a long string of things they let fear keep them from doing.

One of my favorite characters on television is Mark Harmon as Gibbs in NCIS. My friend, Sally, gave me a t-shirt that has his picture on the front and the question “What would Gibbs do?” Gibbs believes strongly in his gut, in his intuition, and he operates from that regardless of how bizarre others find him. He is not conventional. He is fully and apologetically himself. We should all grow up to be Gibbs.

Soul will lead you if you let it. It never gives up, from birth to death, in attempting to move us past our fears, past our inhibitions, past all the cultural and social norms we allow to box us in. Soul will show us what is truly and uniquely our own. But we have to listen and we have to follow.

                                                                In the Spirit,

                                                                      Jane

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