“We must shift our allegiances from fear to curiosity, from attachment to letting go, from control to trust, and from entitlement to humility.”
I have always loved Angeles Arrien's four basic spiritual principles:
“Show up, or choose to be present.
Pay attention to what has heart and meaning.
Tell the truth without blame or judgment.
Be open, rather than attached, to outcome.”
Life, she says, will be “simple” if we but put these into practice. Simple, but not easy. These principles are a little like the question, “Who am I?” in their holographic nature. You can spend a lifetime walking around that question and never light on the perfect answer. And then there's the problem of identifying who's asking the question in the first place. Oh, dear.
What does seem valid, however, is the movement she lists above for having an honest spirituality. That is the movement from fear to trust and humility. When we are operating from fear, we do not make good decisions. Fear is not just hiding in a closet because something might get us; it is making decisions that reflect anxiety and lack of faith. Trust moves us from, “What might happen?” to “Wonder what will happen?” It is the open ended question, “What comes next?”
I know people who are stuck in absolutely untenable situations simply because they can't predict, much less control, what comes next. Instead of curiosity, they have fear. They constantly ask God, “What should I do?” If the answers they receive, however, are fear-based, they're not coming from God, but from their own anxiety. What God gives is courage in the face of fear.
The spiritual journey, if we have the courage to take it, ends with letting go of fear and entitlement, and embracing radical humility and trust. We cannot predict the outcome, but we know that it will be what it will be, and that's good enough.
In the Spirit,