Seared and
Sacred
“The
world for which you have been so carefully prepared is being taken
away from you by the grace of God.”
Walter
Brueggemann
Yesterday, in the Jung
Study Group, we listened to a lecture about despairing love. We heard
about all the stages of love and loss; from fluttering heart to
leaden sorrow. About the journey of love in all its manifestations.
Despairing love is not an easy topic to hear about, or to think
about, or to talk or write about, but it is as much a part of love as
first blush.
When we lose someone we
love, we do ourselves proud to allow the fall
into sorrow to happen, and to trust that light is waiting at the
other end even if we can't see it during the descent. Too many of us
rush to find a safety net before the fall, or even half-way down—a
new relationship, a new house, a new town, anything to stop the pain.
I have a friend who just lost her sweet sister to cancer, who is
wondering why her own face looks different now—strained, puffy
eyes. Grief does that. It changes us. And, if we allow it, it changes
us for the better. It takes us deeper into life; into the true
meaning of our own life.
Nothing in the world
prepares us for loss of love. We cannot think our way through, or put
a positive spin on it, or numb our way through with drugs or alcohol.
There is no way through it but through it. You've seen an ordinary
terracotta urn turned into beautiful Raku by being scorched over time
in a very hot fire. There's no other way to get that gorgeous finish
so prized by the Japanese for their sacred tea ceremony. That is how
it is with us when we allow ourselves to pass through all the stages
of love. By the grace of God, we come out seared and sacred.
In the Spirit,
Jane
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