Crossing
Bridges
“Sometimes
the hardest thing in life is to know which bridge to cross and which
to burn.”
Bertrand
Russsell
I wonder whether you
wrestle with difficult decisions. There is a grace somehow to being a
highly decisive person; to making decisions quickly and without
reluctance and then forging ahead with nary a backward glance. At
least, I imagine there is—I wouldn't know, because I gnaw on every
decision endlessly. It's a shell game in which there are too many
shells and only one pea. I move them around, and move them around, and
only discover the pea when I knock the table over and it rolls away.
One of the most difficult
aspects of life, at least for me, is deciding whether to stay or go, to continue or stop. Whether the question is about
relationships, or work, or which route I will take to get all my
errands run, I deliberate. There are whole days when I wish for a
magic genie that can foresee the future and tell me what to do. Usually, I
end up making decisions by default. Or, I find out what I'm going to
do as I'm doing it, as though someone else is pulling the strings.
Sometimes, when we have
difficulty making a decision, there is a good reason. Something
inside us, not our thinking mind but our intuitive self, knows there
is justification for delay, or at least, to move slowly. That
intuition, that gut instinct, is non-verbal, so it doesn't talk to
us, it communicates through feelings. When something, or someone,
comes along and looks like the right thing, the right person, but
something inside us hesitates, it's wise to listen. It could simply
be our general lack of trust, or it could be that intuitively we know
something is not what it seems.
Deciding which bridge to
cross and which to burn is worthy of contemplation. When the thinking
mind and the intuitive self are in agreement, that is the time to act
decisively. Then we enter into whatever life holds for us with our
whole self, and not with part of us looking backward, and wondering
whether we've made the right decision.
In the Spirit,
Jane
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