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“A
true soul mate is probably the most important person you'll ever
meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake.”
Elizabeth
Gilbert (Eat, Pray, Love)
Having
read too many romance novels, I thought your true soul mate was
someone who loved you exactly as you are, warts and all. I guess that
was just Mr. Rogers. According to Elizabeth Gilbert, a soul mate is
someone who comes into your life and rips your comfortable image of
yourself apart to reveal new layers of yourself to you. Mercifully,
they don't stay forever; were never meant to. By that definition,
I've had several soul mates in my life, and I was always grateful to
God when they left!
What
reading Gilbert's work gave me, however, is a different idea of
what's important to the developing soul. I have always believed that
we humans need support groups around us—people we can call on when
we need help. People who will listen while we whine, cry when we cry,
be with us through all that messy stuff we do when life does not
operate on our terms. We do need those people. We also need the ones
who will smack us awake and not just lull us to sleep. Soul mates
ratchet up the pain threshold, and shine bright lights into all our
dark corners, so we can see clearer than we want to exactly what's
hiding there. It's not pretty.
According
to Gilbert, a “soul mate's purpose is to shake you up, tear apart
you ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break
your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and
out of control that you have to transform your life.” If this
sounds at all familiar, please raise your hand. Then tell yourself
how blessed you were to have that wonderful person in your life.
Okay, maybe not, but they did serve their purpose, right?
The
great thing about soul mates, besides the fact that they don't stick
around forever, is that more often than not, they lead us to our
spiritual mentor. We realize, amid all the bloodshed, that we need
something deeper and more reliable than a support group to keep us
firmly planted on earth. We need that soul mate who is only found
within—that wiser, better informed, part of us that knows the way
forward even when we don't. She never sleeps, but we can rest in her.
In
the Spirit,
Jane
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