Sunday, May 31, 2015

The Spiritual Advantages of Second Place

Coming in Second

There is no such thing as second place. Either you're first or you're nothing.”
Gabe Paul

Such is the deeply held position of collective consciousness—only one thing matters, and that is winning. Whether we're talking about baseball, billboard charts, box office, charity runs, marathons, stock market, money, or Boards of Directors, the one in first place is celebrated, and all the others are an afterthought. This notion that it's not okay to come in second is drilled into our heads from the time we are born. Only the super competitive “get ahead” of the pack, and coming in second is the same as losing. I beg to differ.

Self-aggrandizement seems to come with the territory of being best; over confidence, even bravado. Often, these traits are most pronounced just before the fall from grace. The people I know who come in first, are in a constant struggle to stay on top, to stay relevant, to continue at the same level of productivity that got them there in the first place. Toppling off that high pedestal is painful, sometimes even lethal. Being in second place, on the other hand, has many advantages, especially in the spiritual arena.

Coming in second, or third, or even tenth, means that you can take a breath, take you're time, think it through, experiment, decide what's truly important and what is not. When you are not the fastest, or the prettiest, not the smartest, or the wealthiest, you have the opportunity to step out of the mainstream, out of the collective, and choose for yourself what matters. What are you called to be and do? What speaks to your heart and soul? Do you want to spend your precious life battling for a fleeting moment in first place, or do you want to spend it being the very best you possible? The pressure's off! Become yourself, not the collective version of success.

                                                         In the Spirit,

                                                               Jane

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