Monday, May 11, 2015

The hole in the middle.

Eye of the Storm

All tempest has,
like a navel,
a hole in its middle,
through which
a gull can fly,
in silence.”
Anonymous 14th Century, Japanese

All of us have experience with folks who thrive on drama—who, when things are calm and going well, stir the water and raise up a storm. Some of us have even been that person—speaking for myself, of course. I call them adrenalin junkies. They truly can't bear for everything to rock along at a pleasant pace. If there's no chaos or controversy, they will create it. I'll bet, right now, you are bringing someone you know to mind and nodding your head.

Sometimes, being adversarial is a good thing; we can get comfortable with injustice and indifferent to the plight of others. We can view true tragedy as simply unfortunate circumstance, and it takes the passion of a dramatic personality to push us into action. But sometimes, it's just disruptive. If we meet drama with drama, it escalates. It takes a deft hand to decompress the situation, and restore order.

We know the phrase, “in the eye of the storm.” We've even seen it on a weather map; an angry, red, swirling vortex with a quiet hole in the middle. We have the ability to be that “eye,” if we so desire. In every life, in almost all situations, there will be those who generate drama, and those who generate calm. We create calm by finding that place within us where the storm does not take hold; from which we can approach the other person without adding fuel to their fire. We can stand in that quiet center and feel safe enough to diffuse the tempest swirling around us. I hope today you will be that eye.

                                                                    In the Spirit,

                                                                          Jane

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