Friday, November 7, 2014

"Take your oars out of the water."

Pray and Trust

Relinquishing control is the ultimate challenge for the Spiritual Warrior.”
Ralph H. Blum (The Book of Runes)

Yesterday, I had an interesting conversation with a friend over lunch. This young woman is a former student; one who took her studies very seriously and has furthered them at every opportunity, studying regularly at Esalen Institute in California. She was given this piece of advice by one of the “old-timers” at the Institute, “You are very gifted, but you have to take your oars out of the water!” This is a lesson most of us struggle with every day—we want so much to direct our own lives, and at the same time be in deep relationship to Spirit. We can't have it both ways. Trust is the lesson.

In the 12-Step vernacular, it is “Let go and let God.” We carry so much fear inside—fear that we will fail, fear that we are kidding ourselves, and everyone else knows it. We fear being so caught up in our own “mission” that others will abandon us and we will be sad and alone. Trust is hard to come by in a dysfunctional world, especially during fallow times, when we don't know where we're headed or what comes next.

For me, trust has developed over time, and not because it comes naturally to me. When we spend the first half of our lifetime trying to control everything, and finally realize, after banging our heads against that wall for decades, that we control almost nothing, trust gets easier. It's not the “Whatever!” kind of trust, but the “What now?” kind. One thing ends and there's a pause of not-knowing. While we wait for what comes next, we can spin our wheels in panic and flap around like the proverbial headless chicken, or we can pray and trust. I've done both, and I can assure you, pray and trust is the better option. Today, try taking your oars out of the water, and just see where the flow of life takes you.

                                                            In the Spirit,

                                                                Jane

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