Friday, October 24, 2014

The Spirituality of...

Practical Wisdom

My success was not based so much on any great intelligence, but on great common sense.”  
Helen Gurley Brown

In meditation this morning, I asked, “What shall I write about today?” Instantly, the name Helen Gurley Brown popped into my mind. I actually said out loud, “you've got to be kidding!” I'll be honest with you, I knew almost nothing about her, except for a vague memory that she was highly controversial. Then I did the research, and saw that she wrote, “Sex and the Single Girl,” published in 1962, one of the books that gave high octane fuel to the women's movement. And, she was long-time editor of Cosmopolitan Magazine. So what does that have to do with spirituality?

Helen Gurley Brown was a great believer in the value of hard work and of moving women from the kitchen to the corner office. Let it be said, however, that she was married—to the same man for fifty years. And, though she was quite attractive, always fashionable and glamorous, she didn't use her looks as leverage as was popular for women of that era. “Beauty can't amuse you, but brain-work—reading, writing, thinking can.” She strongly advocated for the notion that smart is sexy in women as well as men.

Common sense was key to her success. She knew how to give people opportunities to open up; how to steer a conversation in a direction she wanted it to go without bulldozing or manipulating, and she knew when silence was the best option. I, of course, attribute that to her Southern roots—she was born in Arkansas! She said, “Never fail to know that if you are doing all the talking, you are boring somebody!” She admired successful people. Rather than jealousy, she expressed awe for other people with talent. A final Helen Gurley Brown piece of wisdom, “Laugh a little when the joke's on you.” I guess we all needed a dose of common sense spirituality this morning.

                                                                  In the Spirit,
                                                                        Jane

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