Thursday, October 9, 2014

Are you where you intended to be?

Here We Are!

I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I've ended up where I needed to be.”
Douglas Adams (The Long Dark Tea-Time of the Soul)

I'm still reflecting on conversations I had at the reunion. I think about where people are now after 50 long years. Most of us have “retired,” which is to say that we aren't actively engaged in our primary careers any more. But that doesn't mean that we've left life, and watch TV all day while the world passes by outside our windows. I spoke with happy people and unhappy people—passages we all travel through more than once.

Some of us married early. I saw a woman whose wedding I was in 50 years ago, still with the same husband, and looking delighted about it. Two of my friends dated off and on from seventh grade, married after graduate school and are still together. The majority have been married more than once. Some worked at the same career for forty-five years, and some skipped around doing a little bit of everything. For most folks, life's trajectory isn't straight; it resembles a labyrinth turning and turning again.

All in all, I think very few of us go where we intend to go, but how can we know at seventeen what the future holds? How can we know at sixty? We are, in most circumstances, just along for the ride, and those circumstances can change in a nanosecond. In the words of Albert Einstein, “Life is like riding a bicycle. To keep your balance, you must keep moving.” And so it is. Isn't it a pure miracle that most of us end up exactly where we need to be?

                                                        In the Spirit,

                                                             Jane

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