Wednesday, August 27, 2014

The Challenge of Keeping an Open Heart

Learning How to Live

As long as you live, keep learning how to live.”
Seneca

My friend, Harry, often says that he lived for fifty years with a closed heart. Now, in his later years, he's learning how to keep it open. Many of us think of ourselves as open-hearted, but it's not easy to know whether we are or not until something happens to challenge our perception. Most of us have an open heart with the members of our own family—with exceptions, of course. And most of us have trusted friends with whom we open our hearts. But when someone outside our circle intrudes or makes a blunder, our hearts quickly close. It seems to be human nature. Only a few living beings are able to keep love alive for everyone under heaven. The Dalai Lama comes to mind as someone in our time who lives with compassion for all. And, possibly, the current Pope.

For most of us, however, every day pushes us beyond the limits of our tolerance. We go from open-hearted to crazy-mad fairly quickly when stressed or frustrated. I'm speaking for myself, of course. You may be a placid lake of compassion and kindness. I have to work at it. But that's okay. That's what our lifetime is designed for—to move us, by fits and starts, toward an ever more open heart. My friend, Harry, had a heart attack that challenged his perception. Triple by-passes later, his heart is more open than it's ever been. I hope it doesn't take that to open mine.

                                                    In the Spirit,

                                                          Jane

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