Friday, July 18, 2014

Spiritual Advice:

Gnaw Your Own Bone

Pursue, keep up with, circle round and round your life...Know your own bone: gnaw at it, bury it, unearth it, and gnaw at it still.”
Henry David Thoreau

“Know your own bone,” Thoreau said, meaning know yourself so well that you are deeply aware of your experience in every moment. I know that sounds simple, but truly, it is not. Most of us are completely unaware of our own motives, or the effect of our behavior on others. Some of us speak whatever words drop down from our cerebral hemispheres without passing them first through our frontal lobes, to assess their possible impact, or their true intent. We say incredibly insensitive things, and then wonder why feelings are hurt, or why someone would think our intentions were anything but altruistic.

This obliviousness is one of the true evils of the world. To go through ones days tossing off pronouncements as though words were just sounds with no meaning, is simply one way of being truly narcissistic. The narcissistic personality is capable of anything, and none of it very good. So knowing one's own bone, including one's light and darkness, is a requirement of being a clear-headed adult, who weighs the consequences of words and actions before undertaking them.

Part of living a spiritual life is knowing oneself very well. In the market place, what motivates you? In your home life, what are your intentions? What pushes your buttons, and why? In what way do you use words to control others? You could, no doubt, make up a list of questions to gnaw your own bone. Consider it an exercise for gaining spiritual insight.

                                                  In the Spirit,

                                                       Jane

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