Saturday, July 26, 2014

Precious Gifts

Human Potentialities

If we are to have a richer culture, rich in contrasting values, we must recognize the whole gamut of human potentialities, and so weave a less arbitrary social fabric, one in which each diverse human gift will find a fitting place.”
Margaret Mead

I grew up in a family which included two people with disabilities. My older sister, Jerrie, had spina bifida occulta, an opening in the spinal column in her lower back. She grew up with normal, perhaps even above average, intelligence, but always walked with a limp. There were things she excelled in, like academics, and things she simply couldn't do, like swim or dance. Those required coordination that she did not have. My younger sister, Missy, had a cerebral hemorrhage at three weeks of age and was profoundly disabled. She had no speech, could not bathe or dress or feed herself, and could not walk. Both of my sisters, in spite of their obvious handicaps, had gifts that were valuable. Jerrie was a smart mathematician, majored in Statistics in college. After she married, she put those skills to work in her family's business, figuring construction bids, keeping the books, filing taxes. Missy was simply the most joyful person I ever knew. She brought remarkable love and light into the world. Her gift was her untarnished spirit.

Fully half the people in the world fall below the mean on the bell curve; they are never going to be rocket scientists or silicon valley executives, but they have gifts none the less. We would have a much richer world if we were able to search out the gifts in every human being, and empower them to use their abilities in the service of others and themselves. Some people need help if they are to survive; that's a simple fact. They are not faking it; in fact, many folks are not capable of faking it. It speaks volumes about a society that expects its old and disabled to sink or swim without help.

When those of us who are able bodied and able minded turn our backs on the least among us, we turn our backs on our own humanity. We fail to recognize that everyone's gifts are precious and necessary for the smooth functioning of the world's soul. If it were not so, they would not be here. Perhaps one of the gifts they bring is to teach the rest of us compassion.

                                               In the Spirit,

                                                     Jane

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