Friday, January 24, 2014

Sleepless Nights

What If?

Every particle of creation sings its own song of what is and what is not. Hearing what is can make you wise; hearing what is not can drive you mad.”
Ghalib (Sufi Poet)

Do you ever get caught up in the “What if's” of life? What if my husband/wife falls in love with another and leaves me? What if one of my children dies before I do? What if the market crashes and I lose all my investments? You know the drill. Every now and then, I fall into that sump of quicksand. What if I can't pay my bills and have to sell my house, etc, etc. This sort of madness keeps you awake in the middle of the night wrangling with the unlikeliest of scenarios. What if a thief breaks in while I'm at work. What if my clothes dryer catches fire and burns the house down? We humans are capable of imagining almost anything, and when we're paranoid, or feeling vulnerable, we can be truly creative in our dire what ifs.

To be sure, there are many dreadful circumstances in the world today—in war-torn areas, in famine-stricken places, in countries where despots are beating their people down—and even in America, where the wealth gap has doubled since 1980, and cost of living is once again on a steep incline, where fires are raging in the west, and snow is burying the east. There are many terrible things that could happen, and that do happen. I don't for one minute make light of that. But I ask myself, what can I do about it? If there is indeed something I can do, whether it's make a donation to a relief agency or the Red Cross, or go and actually put my hands to work, then I do that. But torturing myself with imaginary scenarios is folly.

The way I have found to quell these irrational fears is to replace them with affirmations. Right now, I have everything I need. In this moment, I am at peace. Today, I am calm and secure. Today, I will do what I can to help others. Today, I will remember the words of Jesus—“Be at peace. My peace I give to you. Do not be afraid, for I am with you.” I will take comfort in these promises.

                                                            In the Spirit,

                                                                  Jane

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