Monday, January 13, 2014

Here we are...

Livin' the Good Life

When do people actually live their lives, given all the other things they have to do?"
Barbara Brown Taylor (Home by Another Way)

Barbara Brown Taylor describes a day in the life of an average person—a working mother with children—but it could just as easily be a working father with children. She wakes the kids up, gets them dressed and fed, while somehow managing to also dress and feed herself. She drops them at school, and makes it to work in time for her eight o'clock meeting. She rushes from one deadline to another, one phone call and report to another, all day long, then picks up her children from school, and heads for home. She cleans up the breakfast dishes, cooks dinner, helps with homework, gets the children bathed, reads a bedtime story, tucks them in, and then returns to the kitchen to clean up the dinner dishes. By the time she finishes it's ten-thirty and she's exhausted, so she falls into bed and wakes the next morning to do it all again. I feel tired just remembering this scenario. So, where in there does she actually live her life?

Guess what! This is it! This is real life. This is the living of it at a particular season of one's existence. Yes, if we're lucky, there are vacations, holiday trips, and visits with the grandparents to break things up, but for the most part, time ticks along. One day follows another, and there's not a lot of difference between them. In the course of it, kids grow up, and you change from going to Kinder Care to the soccer field, from Tiny Tikes Ballet to the big stage, but for a large block of time, this is life. And, I must say, it's a good life. I enjoyed almost every minute of it.

The point is, if we're looking for life to take off like a rocket, and be true to our fantasy, then we're probably going to be disappointed. On the other hand, if we actually live everyday conscious that this time is precious, this is my precious life, and it's filled with work, and kids, and responsibilities, and they're all important, we may realize that we love this life just the way it is. We are actually living our days if they are approached with eyes wide open, and full of heart and energy.

Today, while you're running from one thing to the next, and wondering “when do I get to live my life,” remind yourself that you are, in fact, living it. Invest yourself in every second of it. There will be time, eventually, to do what you secretly desire, and that will be good, too. Life is good—even the hard parts.

                                           In the Spirit,

                                              Jane

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