Sunday, April 14, 2013

Life deals the cards, we...


Play the Hand

Each player must accept the cards life deals him or her: but once they are in hand, he or she alone must decide how to play the cards in order to win the game.”
                                                 Voltaire

Last Sunday in the spirituality group, we considered some of the Taoist teachings Harry received during his retreat week. One of them had to do with accepting life on its own terms. According to the Teacher, there is no good or bad, only what is, and when we accept what life deals us without labels, we will cease to suffer. This week, I have pondered the truth of that.

Life does deal the cards. We are born with certain strengths and weaknesses, some gifts, some handicaps. We suffer losses and enjoy gains, live through boredom and poverty of spirit, revel in love and abundance, and experience sickness and health. Life on life's terms can change from joyous to devastating in a nanosecond, and there is not one single thing we can do to prevent it. The events themselves can cause us great pain, or overwhelming joy, but in the end, it is our choice as to how we play the hand.

I wish I could say that I have achieved the spiritual maturity to accept life on life's terms. I haven't. I still rail at the darkness and even accept the gift of happiness with suspicion. Trust and gladness don't come easy to me. But I have hope of getting there in this lifetime. Hope and faith are forces greater than darkness and can carry us even when life seems headed down a wrong path.

Labeling the events of our lives as good or bad is, to me, human nature. No one loves to suffer—at least, no one I know. Radical acceptance of life's tendency to change from good to bad and back again, is a step in the right direction. It helps to know that these twists and turns are not personal, not because we are singled out to suffer unjustly, or because we're being tested by God. Life is just life—it's not for sissies. Each of us must play the hand we are dealt, and winning (or losing) is always possible.

                                         In the spirit,
                                            Jane

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