Friday, November 2, 2012

Waiting and waiting and...


Dealing with Frustration

Frustration, although quite painful at times, is a very positive and essential part of success.”
                                               Bo Bennett

I had one of those awful dreams last night. Everyone in the house is preparing to go out to dinner at a nice restaurant. We have reservations. But I can't seem to get myself together. I can't find anything appropriate to wear. I lose my purse, my make-up; even my shoes and comb elude me. I'm rushing around in the dream with nothing going my way when I hear the car start up outside. I peek out the window and see the rest of the family backing out of the driveway, leaving without me. I awoke with my heart racing from pure frustration.

I thought about old friends yesterday, seeing the miles-long lines of cars trying to get into New York City, moving at less than a snail's pace. I felt claustrophobic just watching the footage. I remembered Fran, who lived in Brooklyn, and left home at five o'clock in the morning to get to work uptown by eight. And that was when the ferry and the trains were running on time! I thought about Donna, who lived in Queens and drove in everyday. There was almost always a wreck on the Queens Borough bridge that would make her late.

I recalled tempers in NYC during the winter of 1977, when I lived there. It seemed as though every union in the city was on strike—the trash collectors, the street cleaning crews. I even had to run a blockade of striking hospital employees to get to my job at Mt. Sinai. Garbage piled up on the streets and was buried under black snow. I was always late to work because I had to devise some means of getting into the building that didn't involve being beaned on the head with a picket sign. People were cold and they were mad, just like they are now. Nothing ever happens as quickly as we want it to.

I feel for the officials who are trying to wrap their head's around this devastation. I suppose there are priorities in place that say who gets what first, but I can't imagine how one goes about sorting it out. To my mind, having even some of the trains and bridges open in two days is a stunning feat. Providing food and water for millions of people who are dealing with the loss of everything is a staggering accomplishment. But for the people in those lines, and on the newly rearranged Jersey shore, it feels like an eternity of waiting.

As the week goes on with frustration building and tempers flaring, those of us out here in the safe zone will hold peaceful thoughts, say lots of prayers, send love and money and hold those dealing with the crisis in our hearts.

                                          In the spirit,
                                             Jane

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